Sometimes an important question I need to ask myself is, “Hadiatou, are you present?”
I get so caught up in my to-do lists and before I know it, it’s the middle of the night, I’m tired, and then the cycle repeats the next morning.
I have this semi-bad habit of measuring my success throughout the days based on how productive I am.
What does it mean to be productive?
Here’s my toxic way of thinking about it for myself …
If I DON’T get through my to-do list in the day, I feel very dissatisfied with myself even if I did all the other tasks on there.
Do you see the problem?
I’m disregarding all of the other work I did just because I didn’t complete a task or two; that’s not fair to me!
Do you struggle with that too? If so, then you’re not being fair to yourself either my friend. It’s time for a change.
I’m learning that because I set unrealistic (and time-consuming) goals for a 24-hour span, there’s literally not enough time for all those tasks to be accomplished within a day.
I get that I have high expectations for myself (which isn’t bad) but what makes it bad is that I’m feeding my mind negativity because of the incomplete tasks. It’s not healthy or fair to treat myself like that.
I noticed this transition within myself soooo I had to find a solution QUICK because how we speak to ourselves matters.
One of my mentors recommended the app called “Flora,” when I was expressing this issue I’m having.
I have only been using this app for a week and let me tell you, it’s been very beneficial!
The Flora app offers to-lists with your choice of time as well as whether the task is, daily, weekly, monthly, etc. It’ll also remind you when it’s time to work on your specific tasks. It’s pretty neat.
P.S. every time you finish a task, you grow a tree 🙂
This is so helpful for me because I find myself spending too much time on my science classes so this app helps prevent me from doing that.
Before the Flora app, I used to just schedule time in for my classes and I wouldn’t schedule specific times for homework/studying, sleep, or ‘me time’!
I’m learning now that having homework/studying, sleep, and personal time scheduled is very helpful and will advocate for your mental health!
Moral of the Post:
Don’t get so distracted in your tasks, that you stop being present in your own life.
What do you mean by that Hadi? I’ll use myself as an example.
I was acting like a robot by focusing so much on getting all my tasks done that I wouldn’t even allow myself to have fun and enjoy LIFE.
Beware of how you measure your success and how you’re fulfilling your happiness. I’ve said this once before and I’ll say it again, life is too short to not be present. I had to give myself a reality check this week because of that!
3 Hacks I Recently Tried Out:
For Energy Requiring Tasks …
Figuring out what time in the day I’m at my peak!
In Other Words:
What time in the day is your energy levels at the best? For some people it’s the morning and for others it’s at night; which one are you?
I can be both 😅
Time Blocks …
I put in specific time blocks throughout the day for when I study, sleep, whatever.
For example, I’ll say to myself:
“I don’t care what happens, at 6pm, I’m going to spend 50 minutes focusing on anatomy only. Whatever I get done during that time period is sufficient.” Then I move on with my life.
This method helps ensure I don’t spend more time in one class than another. You can use time blocks for any tasks; schoolwork is just my personal example.
Find Your Cut-Off Time
The best advise I have is to set cut off times! Everyone has a certain time in the day or night where their brain shuts off and they won’t be “mentally there.” Figure out what time that is for you and abide by it!